Dating another grad student
Finally, I have a fear that a junior female/senior male pairings are more likely to lead to the woman not pursuing as active an academic career as her partner.But I don't think the circumstances under which such a pairing was made plays a major role in that outcome.If there is only one woman every few years then it only needs for a female dating a professor to succeed and the following female to fail to get her degree before the rumor spreads to the third woman entering the department 6 years hence that you need to sleep around to get a degree.This is a deeper problem than what message this one person sends by dating a professor.Grad student sleeping with a professor who has any sort of power over them (teaching a class they are taking, the teacher for a class they are TAing, advisor/advisee relationship, committee member, etc.) is potentially coersive and universally a bad idea. If the relationship works, and the junior woman gets a job at the same university as her partner, she will be plagued by doubts about her achievements, but the woman in almost any spousal hire situation will have to deal with this no matter what the circumstances of the relationship are.Then there are the middle cases concerning whether or not the faculty member is in the same subfield as the grad student and whether or not they are housed at the same university as the grad student.But what if you’re single and you’d like to start dating?What if you This Grad Hacker post was written collaboratively by Amy Rubens, Ph D candidate in English at Indiana University, @ambulantscholar, and Katy Meyers, Ph D grad student in Anthropology at Michigan State University, @bonesdonotlie.
On more cynical days, I fear the only way for ladies to escape this sort of doubt is pair up with a non-academic.The same is true for grads conducting research in say, a lab.Conversely, graduate school can be an isolating experience. The ensuing discussion was mostly about why this is not a good idea (and some about Dr. I'd made a not very deeply thought out comment about the intrinsic sexism in the situation. The specifics involved a female grad student dating a male professor (not on her committee) in the department.
There is a perception/fear/reality that a woman entering into such a relationship will be plagued in her future with doubts at every step about whether her accomplishments are her own, or due to who she is partnered with. There is too much of a power relationship in the game. At the other extreme is a grad student dating a faculty member in a different field (possibly at a different university).